Thursday, November 29, 2018

Frustrations with RVing and Moving On

It's been almost 3 weeks since I've added to my blog - a good three weeks. Lots of family time, lots of sightseeing, lots of food, lots of fun, and lots of rest. Now we are preparing to MOVE ON, to set out once again on our 18 month journey, that unexpected, unsettled life we anticipated when we left three months ago.

Some of the "unsettling" things still plague us and I promised myself I'd write them down, share them, and then (hopefully) let them go. So here's my list of frustrations - so far! The list will undoubtedly morph in the coming months.

1. CLUTTER - anyone who knows me, knows my middle name is clutter! I just seem to accumulate piles - piles of paper, piles of books, piles of laundry, piles of...well, you get the picture. When you are living in an 11 X 33 ft motorhome (which is really one big room, a bedroom, and a bath), clutter is even more a problem. One of my biggest frustrations is what to do with the clutter. I can't hide it in

Typical view of our kitchen table, i.e. only table. 

a second bedroom and forget it exists. There's just no place to put things, things you need, but not all the time - no convenient place, that is. We have lots of space under the RV. I move things around constantly, making this chair or that couch usable for a time, but it's temporary. It's a challenge I have yet to conquer.

2. BENDING - yes, I know, bending is good for you, but when you have to bend down just to get basic necessities (pots, pans, tupperware, clothes, towels, etc), it is a big PAIN. It's a silly complaint, but an honest one. It is definitely one of the things about traveling I don't particularly like. Let's call it an aggravation that I'll have to live with!

3. REACHING - a corollary to bending. The RV is too high for a short person like me. I can't reach light switches or items on top shelves. Lew made me a "light switch stick" so I could reach up and push the button to turn lights off and on. That's a help, but it is still frustrating that I have to either get the stool or call Lew to perform simple tasks. I prefer to do the latter. Keeps him busy.

4. CONNECTIVITY - this is sometimes a serious problem, for Lew (and for me if I want to post to this blog). Wifi isn't always reliable or fast at the RV parks, and it's non-existent in National Parks. This might mean more stops at local libraries or coffee shops!

5. THE OVEN - our oven is being obstreperous. It can take 5 or 10 minutes to get it lit and we can't leave the pilot light on (once it is lit) because it is getting too much gas, so our carbon monoxide alarms are going off (not good on the ears, or the disposition). There does not seem to be any apparent way to adjust the flame, and that's a frustration for Lew. So far we've used it sparingly, but it would be nice to be able to bake or cook a roast or casserole without having to open a window or worry about the alarms.

6. DUMPING - it's not like home. Can't use as much water as you want, need to watch the tanks, need to make sure you dump every few days. It's easy in an RV park with hook-ups, but when we dry camp (no hook-ups) it can be a real problem. Or if we have electricity, but no water or sewer, we have to unhook and pack everything up like we are leaving every few days and drive to the dump station, which is usually on-site, somewhere. That's what it will be like at National Parks. So, it's another annoyance, not really a problem, but it does take some thinking ahead.

That's enough "kvetching" for now. There are other gripes having to do with TV coverage with the satellite dish, using laundromats, long boring drives, the cost of things, and not being able to be as spontaneous as we'd like (we have reservations going all the way into April already). But I'll save some of those for another time.

Instead, here's a quick run-through of some of the things we are GRATEFUL for during these weeks in Salt Lake, as chronicled in our pictures:

You've seen the other two, this is the third season we've experienced in our RV park!

Grateful for the bubble so I could play tennis 7 times

Christmas lights at Temple Square are very impressive

Part of our visit to the Golden Spike National Historic Monument

Early Christmas with family

Grateful for family

The Spiral Jetty, a unique "sculpture" of basalt rock and earth. Sometimes submerged by Salt Lake

A great hike on Desolation Trail to lookout over Salt Lake - oh well, smog!

The Jordan River Trail that ran behind the RV park so we could walk and bike on it

The Red Iguana - an icon in Salt Lake with great Mole. Close to our RV park


So, soon we'll say goodbye Salt Lake City and the good times and good memories we've had here. On Saturday we head south to St George, UT, for three days at Snow Canyon State Park, then on to Death Valley for a few days, followed by Fort Mohave, AZ with friends for a few more days. Finally, we return to California where we will store the RV for 2 1/2 weeks while we travel to Loreto, Baja Sur, Mexico, to spend Christmas with Sandi and her family. We are MOVING ON!





Monday, November 12, 2018

Finding Normalcy

We've remained in one place for two whole weeks now - and look forward to 2 1/2 more! What a relief to not have to pack everything up day after day, to keep the coffee pot and toaster plugged in, and to have the time to get to know the area where we are staying. Our life feels almost "normal" again. The stay in Salt Lake City has afforded us the opportunity to get some things done that needed doing - like a crown for the tooth Bonnie broke over a month ago, some RV repairs (a new battery terminal bolt, a new light fixture, new running lights, an oil change, and remounting a leaky toilet), new brake pads on the car, laundry, shopping, rearranging of stuff, and, of course, relaxing.

Life returning to "normal" has been good in other ways, as well. And by normal, I mean doing the same things we would do if we lived here all the time - even if we are living in a non-insulated small rectangular box on wheels. (It has its challenges, which I will address in my next post!) The best part of being here is spending time with Erin, Charlie, and Phin. We help with some transportation issues, getting Phin places when his parents are working. We go to the local UU church together - and even managed to attend the church's auction - which has been nice for a change. We missed that part of our routine. We spent an afternoon watching some World Cup Short Track Speed Skating competition, which was a lot of fun, even if we didn't know any of the participants. And most amazing of all, Erin and I attended a performance of Come From Away, a new Broadway musical set in the days following 9/11 in Gander, Newfoundland, where 38 planes (that's 7000 people from all over the world) are stranded for 5 days when US air space was closed. It's about hospitality, writ LARGE, compassion, fear, friendship, and lives changed by the experience. The Canadian hosts were inspiring and both the story and the music were compelling (a must-see,if you can!). Combined with a pre-theater dinner at a nearby Vegan restaurant, it was the most perfect (belated) birthday gift any mother could ask for - a special evening with my daughter!

In the two weeks we've been here, it has turned from fall to winter (cold, no snow), and we've gone from riding bikes along the Jordan River to bundling up just to walk. But we are enjoying the sunshine and the sights. One cool thing - I found some indoor tennis courts not far from Erin's house and have signed up to participate in 1 1/2 hour workouts twice a week while I'm here. What fun it has been to hit again - although my back may disagree. (Ice and Aleve work miracles) We've appreciated taking the rapid transit into town (and not having to find parking), walking around Temple Square, attending an organ recital at the Tabernacle, and visiting the main library. Lew attended a special Veteran's Day Concert at the tabernacle which he said was outstanding. Later this week we plan to drive up to see the Golden Spike Monument and the Spiral Jetty (art in the great Salt Lake), celebrate our son-in-law's birthday, take in an afternoon performance of King Lear, and spend some time with old neighbors from Colorado. Other activities on our future agenda include Thanksgiving with Charlie's extended family, the Utah Natural History Museum, the Christmas lights extravaganza downtown, a winter farmer's market, and who knows what else?

Normalcy means lazing around in the morning, making phone calls, paying bills, reading books, taking long walks, watching TV, picking up the "house", doing laundry, and just hangin' out. I'm glad we are interspersing these longer stays with the short ones. It's all good.

Organ at Tabernacle

Charlie & Phin finishing 5K Donut Dash

Bike ride on trail near campground

Short track speed skating competition

What our campground looks like after two weeks. See last post for how it looked before!

Tuesday, October 30, 2018

Memories

When I was younger and had traveled out of California and then returned, I used to sing "California Here I Come" upon crossing the border, proud and excited to be "home," where the streets and sounds and sights and the people were familiar. I get a tinge of that feeling even now, when I cross into California, but I got a big dose of it last week when we entered Colorado. Indeed, I realized, I had lived in Colorado longer than I had even lived in California, and so it was like coming home, in Breckenridge, but even more so, in Colorado Springs.

I sometimes wonder why we do this to ourselves - return, year after year. Wouldn't it have been easier to make a clean break with the past? Move on? Every time we come back, it hurts - it's like an aching, for what we had, for what and who we left behind. Is it fair to our new friends, our new home, our new life to constantly remind ourselves of what we had, instead of what we have?

We felt comfortable, loved, and missed by our friends in our old church and enjoyed the services we attended there. We laughed and reminisced with neighborhood friends with whom we endured years of swim meets at the racquet club each summer...and caught up on the lives of our now-grown children, and their children!

We hiked with an old high school friend in the beautiful and serene Garden of the Gods, flashing on so many similar experiences. What a wonderful afternoon we had.


And I finally got to play some tennis with my old teammates; it felt so good and so natural and so right. We even got our teeth cleaned by our former dentist (and skiing buddy) and then topped off the week with an evening of USAFA Falcon football, complete with parachutes, flyovers, and spending time with our "cadet" who is now a Lt. Colonel and will soon be retiring from the Air Force. We spent so many Saturday afternoons cheering the team on over the years.

It was all fun, and heady, and very, very comfortable. It was so easy to slide back into old friendships, old memories, old experiences. And that's the wound - the wound that we open every time we come back. Not because it's bad, but because it is so very, very good! Leaving Colorado was so hard, although it was a joint decision made for all the right reasons - Sandi, Tom, Dylan (and eventually Andy), and my mom. Coming back is also hard. But should we stop? Should we stop connecting with old friends? Should we dim the memories we have of those 27 years? NO!


Why? Because memories and friendships are what life is all about. It's not the things, it's the people and the things we DID with those people. And just because we miss those times - those people - and want to "re-enact" them occasionally, doesn't diminish the importance of current friends and current experiences or future friends and future experiences. I believe we are all the richer for those important and meaningful connections...and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Much of this trip is about memories - remembering old ones and making new ones. We'll be seeing a lot of old friends and family along our path and we look forward to sharing stories and laughing and talking about old times. And then we'll venture out with or without them, to see new things, experience different places, always trying to live our lives to the fullest.

But for now, we are so HAPPY to be in one place - Salt Lake City - for a month, living in a really nice KOA, spending time with Erin and her family, and getting to know their city a little better.
 
P.S.
And I'm so grateful to Lew! I'm grateful he does all the driving! I'm grateful that he figured out how to get the RV started early Monday morning - after much hand wringing and gnashing of teeth. And I'm grateful that today he fixed our leaky toilet...a most disgusting job. He deserves a medal, but will have to settle for a nice lunch, a "thataboy" pat on the back, and maybe a big thank you kiss from me! And the leaky toilet and the silent engine will just be two more memories we will file away with the rest.

Monday, October 15, 2018

Reflections on "Home"


Reflections on “Home”

In 1868, a weary band of 8000+ Navajos began their long walk BACK after four years of relative captivity at Ft Sumner, NM – back to what they left behind. HOME.

It is nearly impossible to understand a culture when unless you are born into it. We outsiders can appreciate it, learn from it, and perhaps even adopt some of it for our own, but it will never be fully ours. What a treat it has been to spend last week with the Navajo people who did their best to show us, and tell us, and encourage us to understand and feel what it means to be Navajo and why Canyon de Chelly is so important to them.

To them, this is and will always be, home, no matter where they may be living. It’s the land, stark, but beautiful, combined with their sense of kinship with all things, their traditions, their stories, their music and ceremonies, and their history. 

I won’t bore you with all the details – if you want to learn more about the canyon and its people, please go online or check out a book. Instead, I will tell you what this Road Scholar program shared with us, what the Navajo people who ran the program shared with us, and how we reacted to it.

Through various lectures and experiences, we learned about the archeology of the Canyon, about Navajo creation stories and spiritual beliefs, about the clan system (every person represents 4 clans – mother, father, and two grandfathers), the Long Walk (one of many shameful episodes in U.S. history we never learned about), the World War II Code Talkers, native music and ceremonies, traditional foods, and native arts and crafts (jewelry making, silversmithing, rug weaving, pottery making). 

And, of course, we explored the Canyon itself via 2 rim drives and an exciting 4x4 jeep ride in the rain (complete with rising waters and waterfalls). Lew and I, along with another couple, had the added delight of hiking 900 feet down into the canyon itself (and back) – awesome.

It was, however, the totality of the experience that was so meaningful. The Navajo people are resilient, talented, funny, and very open. They are a culture that has “adapted” and “adopted” over the centuries – adapted to changing circumstances and adopted features of other cultures with which they’ve interacted.  After the talk on what the Navajo people had to endure on the Long Walk in 1864, I was nearly brought to tears. I kept asking myself “why”? Why are we so cruel to one another? Why don’t we listen? Why do we treat people who are different from us with such contempt, with such disregard for their humanity? And how is it, with so much pain in their past, that these people endure and many even have renewed hope for the future?




The land is hauntingly beautiful, but it no longer provides for the people as it has in the past. Drought. Invasive species. Loss of livestock. Failed policies. And yet they persist, and dream of a better future. This is home, the home of their ancestors, and this is where they will remain.


What is “home” to me? It’s not where I grew up – I no longer have familial ties there, nor do I care to go back to Los Angeles. It’s not where we raised our own family – we moved around in the Air Force, so no one place stands out as home, and the kids have scattered. It’s not where we live now, although we plan to remain there. And, of course, now that we are nomads, home is where we happen to have parked our RV for the time being.

Home to the Navajo is a visceral feeling – this is where I belong, this is where I find peace, this is where the ancestors lived. This is part of my being. I used to have that feeling when I returned to California, but not anymore. I suppose Colorado comes the closest, but in reality, it’s the mountains that call to me, that give me that feeling of peace – any mountains. Or when we're with our daughters and grandchildren, wherever that may be. That is where I feel most at “home”.

Lew’s addendum:
Two thoughts:
I was seriously impressed by the Navajo attachment/reverence surrounding family and home as defined as a place of their ancestors, their elders.  They carefully trace family and clan based on matriarchal lineage and tenaciously maintain those family ties.  The sense of “home” as a specific place, a place where my elders, my ancestors, lived and worked has made that place sacred.  I must maintain that sacredness for my family and for future generations.  Is there something for the rest of us to learn from their tenacity to these values?  Most of us were raised with the trite concept, “Home is where the heart is.”  I have no particular reverence for “home,” but Home is where my family love resides. 
 
We all learned a bit of American history in school, but we probably didn’t get the Native American version.  Nor did we receive the level of detail involved in what instigated the Navajo Long March.  We certainly weren’t taught the kinds of changes to Navajo culture that the return from the march caused.  Yes, some results were positive, but the process provides a new chapter in my understanding of man’s inhumanity to man.  But that’s a discussion for another time.

Thursday, October 11, 2018

Exploring the Southwest

Since leaving Sandi and family in California, we've seen a lot of the Southwest in the past two weeks. Our first stop was Fort Mohave, where the temperatures reached over 100 degrees (but, oh well, it's a dry heat!) and vegetation was scarce. We appreciated the time spent with Diane and Bill Vigeant, old friends from Colorado Springs, where we could relax, laugh, get tips full timing RVing, do our laundry, and wait for the remnants of Hurricane Rosa to pass. We did take a couple of "field trips" -  first to Oakman, an "almost" ghost town in the nearby mountains with donkeys wandering the streets with lots of tourists and the next day to Lake Havasu City to see the London Bridge spanning the Colorado River. In both cases we had nice walks and lunches in local eateries, but were glad to return to the air conditioning!

By Wednesday, October 3, we thought it was safe to head out of the desert and up to the Grand Canyon. On this trip we are trying to be more spontaneous, so, of course, we did not make any reservations at the Canyon campground. We just crossed our fingers and hoped to get a spot. As luck would have it, the campground and the RV village at the Canyon were full. So we turned around and drove about 10 miles south to a forest service campground we had seen. They had lots of spacious, shaded sites available (for the huge sum of $5/night), so we were content to enjoy the rest of the afternoon and evening there, hiking and relaxing.

We arose at 5 a.m. the next day so we could experience sunrise at the Grand Canyon. Unfortunately, it was quite cloudy and the sunrise was not as spectacular as we had hoped. Nevertheless, the canyon was still beautiful and we enjoyed an early morning walk along the rim (in 40+ degree temperatures, I might add. Colder than expected!) The Grand Canyon takes your breath away and no pictures or words can really grasp the essence of the experience - everything, our lives, our worries, our troubles, are put in perspective. The canyon is vast and its rock layers span nearly 2 billion years, which is unfathomable. Who am I, but a speck? Our times, but a thin moment in geologic history. What will we leave behind? How will we be remembered? This question, we were to learn quickly, will haunt us the next few weeks as we explore more of the southwest.

After being drenched by a sudden downpour later in the morning, we returned to our RV to change into dry clothing, and then returned to the park when the sun returned in the afternoon. We hung around, hoping to see a beautiful sunset, but were again disappointed. Too many thick clouds in the west, but, still, the experience was awe-inspiring. (Lew is always looking for the perfect picture, which wasn't there, but everything else was wonderful)

Our plan was to leave the Grand Canyon the next morning by way of the east entrance and head up to Monument Valley. Fortunately, Lew encountered some Dutch neighbors at the campground who asked us about the road closure. Road closure? Yikes! Apparently the road we needed to take north after leaving the Park was washed out until Sunday. Well, one of the nice things about this sojourn is the fact that we have few absolutes, few deadlines to meet. This was an opportunity to prove we could be flexible. Can't go there? Ok, if we have to go south to Flagstaff anyway, why not head east to Aztec, NM to see an old friend I hadn't seen since I graduated from high school 53 years ago! Why not, indeed? So we went.

It was along drive - which we vowed we wouldn't do - but it was worth it. Besides a reunion, which was great, we were treated to a trip down to Chaco Canyon, which we hadn't anticipated. It was amazing. I had no idea who the Chaco people were or what incredible building techniques they had perfected some 1000 years ago. Chaco Canyon was a central location for all the people living in this four corners region, and beyond - a trade center, a ceremonial center, a central gathering place for far-flung peoples. I am so glad we had the opportunity to visit here and feel the power of the place as people long ago must have felt that power, that specialness.

The whole southwest is dotted with these ancient settlements. These people, the ancestral puebloans, forged a culture that still lives today in many of the American Indian tribes - the Hopi, the Apache, the Navajo, and many others - people that the invading Europeans called savages. But these people had developed a complex social organization, deep religious customs and ceremonies, amazing irrigation and agricultural systems, precision building techniques and sophisticated methods of communication over a wide expanse. They revered the land, wisely learned how to live in a sometimes hostile environment, and developed a way of life that lasted for hundreds of years.

I am humbled by what they accomplished with so little. I wondered if my experience at Chaco Canyon could prepare me better for what I was about to learn at Canyon deChelly. I don't think so. I'm most of the way through that experience, but will leave my musings for another post. I need to think. It's all a bit overwhelming. My emotions are raw.

Saturday, September 29, 2018

Bittersweet Goodbyes

As we walk away from the dock at Dana Point Marina, our eyes fill with tears, ever so slightly, and our hearts are heavy. The first leg of our adventure has come to an end. We hug our daughter and grandsons, and son-in-law, wish them well on their journey, take a deep breath, and drive away. Saying goodbye is bittersweet.

But there is a part of us that says, "YES! Now WE can really begin our adventures!" It's like that old saying that the best part of being a grandparent is that you can give the kids back! That's not to say we won't miss them. Of course we will miss Andy and Dylan - but not the need for constant vigilance, the tears, the whining, the sibling conflicts, the defiance, the bedtime shenanigans, their energy-sapping activity level, or their picky eating habits - no, we will not miss that at all. But we WILL miss their smiles, their joy at seeing or doing something fun and new, sharing their excitement, teaching them, discovering things for the first time again with them, and just loving them and watching them grow. We will see them again in 3 months, then 6 months, then 18 months, a long time when they are only 4 and 6. Bittersweet.

In this first month we saw much of the pacific ocean, sandy beaches and big sand dunes, cheese being made, giant trees in Redwoods National Park, the Golden Gate Bridge and San Francisco, caves and rock formations at Pinnacles National Park, more beaches in southern California, Disneyland and California adventure parks, and all the sights in between. And as glad as we are to have helped make this whole trip of Sandi's possible by driving down the coast with the boys, we need to slow down. It's been a whirlwind month and we are ready for a much different pace, more relaxed, less scheduled. We need to get on with our lives.

We are about to leave the coolness at Camp Pendleton in Oceanside, CA and head for the desert, where the temperature will be in the 100s. Yikes! We plan to spend a few days with friends in Fort Mohave, AZ, waiting out the residual effects of Hurricane Rosa in Arizona. Then it's on to the Grand Canyon and Canyon de Chelly.

We will cherish the times we've had this past month, but look forward to sipping cold drinks with friends, swapping travel stories, learning from their 4-year RV trek, and just doing nothing for a few days. We need the time to rejuvenate and refresh ourselves before we head out into the unknown. Saying goodbye to one part of our lives, saying hello to another. Bittersweet.

Monday, September 17, 2018

A Life Interrupted

The following blog was composed on Thursday, September 13. Needless to say, today is not Thursday. It's Monday. After writing the blog and planning to post it the next day, we discovered, to our dismay, that we had no connectivity for 3 days in Pinnacle National Park. That is not, is not, I repeat, a totally bad thing at all, but it meant that it's been quite a while since I've updated our travels. We are now looking out over the Pacific Ocean at El Capitan State Park near Santa Barbara, CA. The sun is slowly sinking, the waves are crashing, the kids are playing in the tent (where they actually spent the entire night last night, alone, without Grandma and Papa! Yay!), and we have connectivity (but no electricity, much to Andy's chagrin - no TV).

So, pretend it's last Thursday. A Life Interrupted

It's been a week since I last wrote a post to my blog. I've tried a number of times, but was always interrupted. Interrupted, usually, by small voices needing this or that, or just wanting attention. It's been a week of interruptions - conversations cut short, thoughts cut short by other priorities, hikes cut short because small legs get tired out, even stays cut short - when it became apparent that the drive from Redwood National Park to Lake Chabot campground in Oakland would be 8 hours long, Sandi decided to take the car (and the kids) a day early, stopping along the way to cut the daily drive in half and visit a museum in Sausalito before joining us at the campground. Of course, that left Lew and me "stranded" at the campground, limited to hikes accessible from that locale only - a short nature trail and a stroll along the river - but did give us a moment of quiet among the tall, magnificent trees.

And time for some more reflection!

This drive down the coast is not for us. We finally accepted that. We can retrace our steps on the way home in 1 1/2 years and see all the sights and explore these and other places in California at our leisure. In the meantime we recognize that 4 and 6 year olds are not interested in the beautiful scenery, the amazing sunsets, the quietness of the forest or the magnificence of the redwoods (unless the tree has fallen and they can climb on it). No, they are interested in riding their bikes, playing with legos and crazy gears, watching DVDs, and talking at the speed of light, constantly. They like splashing in the ocean waves, playing in the sand, taking short hikes (under duress), and climbing on rocks. They like to eat every hour and invariably have to pee at the most inopportune times. Sometimes they get on each other's nerves (and more often on ours), but usually they entertain each other and play well together, giving us a brief respite in our responsibilities.

We have them alone now, for the next 12 days, before Disneyland and a reunion with their parents. This is "our life interrupted" - but interrupted in a good way. We understand better now that this trip is entirely about them and what they want to do and what they need (within reason - we have to have some standards, you know!). Not what we wand to do, or see, or need. We plan to thoroughly enjoy these last few weeks with our grandsons - playing games, listening (trying to teach them to listen), laughing, and having fun. Well, we'll try anyway. And we know we will miss them when we go our separate ways at the end of the month....miss them AND breathe a sigh of relief. In the meantime - bring on those interruptions!

We've gone about 1000 miles, with 5 or 6 hundred to go. We hope to enjoy these more. WE WILL enjoy these more.

PS since this post is coming 5 days later. We still get frustrated, but we've done much better. At the Pinnacles, part way on a cool hike, Dylan exclaimed, " I'm not impressed! " Shoot, but then we came to some really great rock formations and he was a "little" impressed, and then we walked through some caves and he was over the top excited. Patience. We are learning patience. And, now at the beach, they are having a fabulous time, playing in the surf, sleeping and playing in the tent, and everyone is getting along better (except during the bewitching hour - 5-8 pm. Still tough, but we are playing games - Go Fish and Ocean Bingo, so far. And the kids are only missing TV a little.

Heading down to Oceanside (Camp Pendleton Fam Camp) on Wednesday. Long drive through LA traffic. Only 8 days to Disneyland. The kids are counting.

 Redwoods

Oregon Coast with fog

Andy's 4th birthday party in Oakland on boat

View from El Capitan campsite